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Do you ever wonder, ‘why can’t I let get of the past?’.
Our past struggles can weigh heavily on our shoulders and often times it’s our need for certainty that is keeping us stuck in the past. When we refuse to let go of the past, it holds us back and prevents us from living in the moment. And from being who we really want to be. Letting go of the past means that we step into unknown territory which makes us feel vulnerable.
According to Eckhart Tolle, people create and maintain problems because they give them a sense of identity.
Is it the fear of losing this identity that makes us hold onto a painful past for too long and prevents us from living in the present moment? Are we so attached to our struggles, because we don’t know how we would be without them?
Learning to let go of the past can be difficult.
Letting go of negative experiences, bad habits, false beliefs, unhealthy relationships, and people…
As a result, we allow rumination, worry and fear to take over our mind and shape our actions in the present. But by holding on to the past, you don’t see the beauty of the present moment. And you can’t heal and open your heart to joy and happiness.
We all have a past and we are all shaped by it. But we’re not defined by it nor are we bound to it. Only WE have the power to define ourselves. Only WE can take charge of our lives, our present and our future.
Every day and every moment is a chance to let go. To open ourselves up to new experiences, and to take action to create a meaningful future.
Here are 5 reasons to let go of the past and embrace the future.
1. Let go of the past because you can’t change it
We spend too much of our precious time dwelling on the past. “I wish I could just erase that mistake.” “Why did that happen to me?” “I wish I’d made my own choices earlier.” “
You simply can’t go back and change the past. But you can choose not to suffer now and learn from it. And you can let go and take responsibility for yourself and your future.
2. Letting go of the past creates space for something new
When you let go of your past struggles, mistakes, setbacks and fears, you make room for something new to emerge. The world is full of amazing and exciting opportunities waiting to be discovered. New experiences will be knocking at your door when you allow yourself to close the old ones.
3. You will be stronger
Letting go of the past such as past struggles, old habits, and people who aren’t serving your best interest isn’t an easy task. It requires that we leave our comfort zone and step into the unknown. This is why many of us choose to maintain the status quo. We keep coming up with excuses as to why we shouldn’t let go of our past. But choosing to let go will make you stronger and more secure. It allows you to focus on what you need to do to live in the present moment and become who you really are. Each time a new challenge comes your way, you’ll learn how to overcome it. This will allow you to take charge of your goals and your life.
4. You will experience a new sense of freedom
Imagine walking through life with a heavy backpack full of rocks. All the painful experiences you’ve endured, mistakes you’ve made, and setbacks you’ve had to overcome are weighing you down. They are making you feel stuck and holding you back from living your life.
Choosing to throw away and release each rock will allow you to experience a newfound sense of freedom that will carry over into every aspect of your life.
5. You can appreciate yourself more
Your past has shaped you into the special and unique individual that you are today. Realizing this is a great first step to appreciating and embracing your own body and story. Nobody is perfect and we all carry a past with us.
When you forgive yourself and let go of everything that happened yesterday you create space in your heart for the beautiful things the world has to offer today.
You can use your energy to work on the goals and dreams that make you happy.
Holding on to the past can hold us back in so many ways. From self-destructing behaviors to anxiety, fear or anger. On the other hand, letting go of the past means opening up for new experiences and happiness.
Learning to let go of the past is the key to your healing, growth and development throughout life.
(Last Updated: September 8, 2022)
Thank you so much for this post. It really helped me, especially during this hard time.
See, I have come so far in recovery, but there is still a part of me that is holding onto the eating disorder. I guess it is because I am so afraid to let go of control, to step outside of this illusory comfort zone full of rules and rigidity, and dive into the unknown.
The eating disorder has been a part of my identity for so long now that I do not know who I am without it, and therefore it is scary to let go. But, like the article says, ruminating on the past is only going to leave me feeling stuck, and this is not how I want to live my life. I want a future for myself, to create a new story for myself by living in the moment now and embracing a brighter future. I want to recover, it is just a matter of trusting the process and slowly stepping into the ambiguity and excitement of all that life has to offer.
Thank you again.
The best part of your blog for me is when you said that choosing to let go will make you feel stronger and more secure. As you said, you must live in the present. One of my cousins really had an abortion, and she has not been herself since the incident. She has been locking herself in the room and refused to speak with us. I will share this with him and find a healing book that she can read to help her cope. Thanks!
Thank you so much for reading Shammy and for sharing our articles. Best wishes for your cousin and his partner for healing.?
Thanks for reading Alan!
Ayam- thank you for reading! ❤️
Thank you so much …. beautiful article… let go of our past struggles makes present feel secure ….and makes strong…. beautiful lines in every ones life…. inspirational….
It made sense to me when you said that past setbacks and mistakes could weigh you down, so you must consider letting go of the past to achieve freedom. This makes me think of considering past life aura healing services within the week. For the past two months, I have been dealing with nightmares and other emotional problems due to what I have experienced in the past. Your tips will surely help me to get a sense of freedom and have the urge to move on.