The One Thing that Can Fill Your Emptiness

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Over the past few years I’ve come to the realization that in any given moment, no matter where we are, who we are and what we have or do – it is enough. There are no prerequisites. In today’s society we can easily get trapped into always feeling we need more. We need to be better, do more, have more or look prettier, and it never stops. Instead of being guided by our inner compass, we are guided by the external world where never enough dominates and authenticity is subversive, which leaves us feeling empty inside and disconnected from life and our soul. As a result, we end up being caught up in a web of critical thoughts and seeing ourselves as not good enough, inadequate, unworthy or unlovable.

In our attempt to fill the inner void, we try to find meaning in our lives through distracting ourselves by chasing things in the external world. Chasing goals. Chasing love. Chasing joy and happiness. Chasing perfection. Chasing anything that can make us feel worthy and valuable. Some of our techniques work temporarily as a psychological band-aid, but sooner or later our inner emptiness is back and we’re searching for something else to fill that empty space inside. A search that never ends…

The truth is, there is only one thing that can truly fill the inner emptiness and help us reconnect with ourselves. Love. And there is only one place where we can find it. Within ourselves.

Inner emptiness comes from a lack of connection with our authentic selves and the love that naturally exists inside us.

As a result, we depend on the acceptance of others to make us feel good and we try to find fulfillment in the external world. But when we shut ourselves off from our own desires, feelings and needs, we distance ourselves from the things that bring meaning to our lives.

So if love is the solution, how do you reconnect with the place within where you can find it?

The answer is simple yet difficult to do. By shifting your attention and focus inward. Noticing and feeling what is unfolding in your inner world – the world of your feelings, desires, and energy. Take time to get to know what’s important to you by getting in touch with how you feel about things in life. What are your values? Love? Security? Family? Connection? Make a list of what values matter most to you and really feel them from the heart.

Now, put your hand on your heart and ask yourself, “How do I feel right now?” and focus your attention on the parts of your body where you feel your breath. All you have is this moment right here, right now. Pay attention to all that’s going on, on the inside. What thoughts and feelings are returning? What’s your soul’s true desire? How does your body feel right now?

When we learn to open ourselves to our own feelings, our heart opens. When our heart is open, we can discover our true authentic selves, and, more importantly, we don’t need to look outside ourselves for happiness, love and approval anymore. Instead, we can find that within.