Triggering situations and people: Four self-inquiry questions that can change how you relate to them

Eating disorders often stem from a tangle of emotions, beliefs, and perceptions that linger beneath the surface. Self-inquiry is the gentle act of turning your attention inward, bravely confronting these layers with a compassionate heart.

In the latest episode of Fear Less, an audio series on The Recovery Warriors Show podcast channel, hosts Jessica Flint and Andrea Wells delve into thought-provoking discussions about self-inquiry and the power it has to help you overcome fears around body judgment.

Recognizing the Power of Beliefs

If you struggle with eating issues, you often have strong beliefs about your body and how you feel about food.

However, it will be easier to break down harmful thought patterns linked to the disorder if you use self-inquiry to challenge these thoughts.

And by questioning thoughts and judgments, you can have clarity and a deeper understanding of yourself. 

With that said, self-inquiry becomes a powerful tool for healing.

Embracing a Beginner’s Mind

The path to healing from eating disorders or body image struggles can be tough, marked by uncertainty and anxiety.

But by adopting a “beginner’s mind” approach, you can open the door to curiosity and embrace new experiences.

It’s nice to just be able to revel in always learning, always growing.

Jessica Flint

Accepting that you don’t have all the answers and being willing to learn and grow allows for a more compassionate and patient healing journey.

The Role of Self-Inquiry and Self-Compassion

If you want to work on self-inquiry, a good place to start is Byron Katie’s “The Work.”

Jessica and Andrea discussed how Katie’s framework can help transform your life, especially in your journey toward eating disorder recovery.

“The Work” is a practice you can use to look closely at your negative thoughts and work on changing them. 

We either believe what we think or we question it.

Byron Katie

The framework uses a set of questions and a turnaround to help you think differently about your thoughts. 

This helps you understand yourself better and develop self-compassion, which can help you overcome fears in the recovery process.

With this practice, you can develop a better relationship with yourself, your body, and food.

Honoring Your Story

Honoring your story is an affirmation of self-compassion, allowing you to view your journey with understanding and acceptance.

Your experiences shape you, and by honoring and finding meaning in your narrative, you can bring about positive change and hold yourself accountable. 

A little bit of a discomfort is where we grow.

Andrea Wells

By reframing your stories, you can shift from a victim mindset to one of resilience and empowerment.

Use Self-Inquiry to Challenge Societal Judgments

Society’s obsession with body size and the resulting judgment affects those with eating disorders and body image problems.

The episode explores the anger and helplessness these judgements can bring, and prompts self-questioning about personal beliefs versus perceived judgments.

By challenging these beliefs, you can begin to let go of external expectations and focus on your own well-being.


Recovering from eating disorders, conquering food fears, and managing body image issues need self-reflection, self-kindness, and challenging societal beliefs.

Take a listen to the full episode as it offers valuable perspectives and tools for your healing journey. 

Through self-inquiry, self-compassion, challenging limiting beliefs, and embracing stories, you can foster a better relationship with your body, food, and yourself.

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