Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs
Ever since I was a little girl I used to believe that in order to be accepted and liked by the people around me, I had to look, act and live my life in a certain way. I was constantly worrying about what others thought of me and desperately looking for social validation that proved I was good enough. In my desperate search for social acceptance and love, I changed everything about me that made me authentic and unique, and instead of making my own decisions I just copied others’. I spent the first 25 years of my life living like this, wearing masks, forcing myself to be someone I wasn’t and trying to fit in. I ended up feeling depressed, unhappy and disconnected from my soul, resulting in an eating disorder that lasted for over a decade. Rules about food and exercise were my only coping mechanism and my true feelings became inaccessible and were buried under a thick layer of Anorexia.
It wasn’t until my late 20s that I realized how many years of my life I had wasted living up to other people’s expectations, rather than living up to my own. Once I stopped worrying about other people’s opinions a magical thing happened; I experienced a sense of freedom I had never felt before. And when I stopped trying to fit in, I was able to connect with my true self and listen to my own voice.
When you spend your life living according to what others’ think is best for you and trying to be someone you aren’t, you begin to lose your own identity, desires and beliefs. You begin to lose yourself.
Don’t be afraid to follow your heart and embrace who you really are deep down inside, and more importantly, don’t let other people’s criticism, opinions or judgments distract you from building a life that you want. Remember that most people criticize you for being yourself is because they are too afraid of doing the same thing.
So let go of who you think you’re “supposed to be” and allow yourself to go where your heart leads you.
Allow yourself to be you.
This is a great article. I always feel like everyone is watching me, because I am of marriageable age. People always say, oh, makes sure to always do this.If I do something unacceptable or different in their eyes I worry that I won’t find my prospective match. My dichotomous thinking probably makes me view this more extreme than it is. I need to remind myself that being myself with my disorders and all. Doing my best and focusing on using my strengths to improve my life is the important thing. I have so much good in me, that shines from within. If someone has a problem with the fact that I have different challenges than they do. If a person can’t accept me for who I am. These individuals are not my prospective match or people I want to interact with.